What would it take to live a better life?
Last weekend, I attended Tony Robbins’s epic seminar, Unleash The Power Within. I’ve been an avid admirer of his work for nearly a decade. I have done many of his courses before, so I knew the massive benefits this seminar would provide.
In four days, my husband and I immersed ourselves in 50 hours of intensive training, infused with all the tools and techniques to prime our minds for peak performance. We eagerly seek to learn new habits and free ourselves from the shackles of our limiting beliefs.
On the first day, Tony primed our minds to show us that any fear can be conquered with the right mindset. To prove it, we all voluntarily undertook the ‘firewalk.’ By the end of the day, we couldn’t wait to walk barefoot on burning coals!! Thousands of people eagerly rushed out of the arena to see if they could do it. And we all did it and appropriately celebrated what we thought was impossible.
In the following days, we were in the presence of some of the world’s most profound speakers on personal and spiritual wealth. Absorbing wisdom, I often share with others as a coach. But this time, I attended as an eager learner, ready to be coached myself. And once again, I was reminded of the simplicity of fulfilling life.
In the hustle and bustle of our daily lives, it’s too easy to neglect the inner dialogues that mold our perception of ourselves and our potential. It’s these very dialogues that often go unnoticed, like a distant whisper, that shape the course of our lives. The exact words we use to express our emotions and opinions create our reality accordingly.
For me, becoming a mother was a transformative experience, one that shifted my values and challenged my preconceived beliefs. It led me to embark on yet another profound journey of self-discovery, unearthing insights about my own limiting beliefs that had, for too long, held me captive.
I’m sharing this with you because, like me, you might be seeking a break from the daily routine, a moment of inspiration, or a chance to connect on a deeper level with someone who understands. I’m here to tell you that change is possible, and you are not alone.
‘Don’t try to resist your fear, neither pretend like it is not there, but rather take the fear by hand and fearlessly have a dance with it. Your fear will eventually get tired and leave.’
-Tony Robbins
Why do I constantly doubt my abilities and worth?
This relentless question echoed within me, especially after the birth of my son, Marco. Many years ago, my dear friend of mine, Melissa, once told me that the moment I have my own child, I will doubt everything around me. I will question every move even after I made it and will never feel quite sure about myself or anything else.
Before motherhood, I felt confident, understanding my desires and what needed to be eliminated from my life to make room for fulfilling pursuits. However, the realm of motherhood introduced an entirely new set of challenges for me. My life was centered around my beautiful son, whom I adore with every fiber of my being. Yet, in this new world, I found myself grappling with doubt, guilt, and a yearning to maintain a connection with my pre-motherhood self.
The persistent whispers of “You’re not good enough” and “You can’t do it” seemed impossible to silence. But as I immersed myself in the practices shared in the seminar, accompanied by mindfulness and self-compassion, a profound transformation began to unfold. I started to discern that these doubts were merely thoughts, not unassailable truths. I learned that success didn’t necessitate erasing self-doubt but rather acknowledging it with kindness and moving forward despite its presence. As Tony Robbins said, ‘Don’t try to resist your fear, neither pretend like it is not there, but rather take the fear by hand and fearlessly have a dance with it. Your fear will eventually get tired and leave.’
My quest for inner peace led me down the path of emotional healing.
“How do I heal from past emotional wounds and find inner peace?” I questioned. The answer, I discovered, resided in the potent practice of self-compassion. By recognizing my pain and extending to myself the same kindness I would offer a cherished friend, I gradually liberated myself from the grip of past traumas, finding profound peace within.
In the midst of life’s tumult, it’s easy to lose sight of our values and long-term objectives. I found myself pondering, “Am I making choices that align with my values and long-term goals?” The process of aligning my choices with my authentic self proved to be liberating and empowering. I learned that confident decision-making about my future arose from a foundation of self-awareness and self-compassion.
Creating lasting, positive transformations can be a daunting task. I often wondered, “Why is it so challenging to create and stick to positive habits and lifestyle changes?” We all know what is good for our health and fitness and how important sleep is for us, but how many actually practice these simple routines? The answer, while simple, held immense depth: self-compassion. By honoring myself with the same love and understanding I readily provided to my family and friends, I unearthed the motivation and resilience needed to effect enduring, positive changes in my life.
So, my friend, if you’ve ever questioned your abilities, sought inner peace, or wrestled with aligning your choices with your true self, know that you are not alone. Change is not merely a possibility; it’s an inevitability when you journey with mindfulness, self-compassion, and an unwavering commitment to your own growth. Together, we can overcome our limiting beliefs and embark on a path of profound transformation.